Being with Dying Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death (Audible Audio Edition) Joan Halifax Ira Byock MD foreword Claire Slemmer Audible Studios Books
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The Buddhist approach to death can be of great benefit to people of all backgrounds - as has been demonstrated time and again in Joan Halifax's decades of work with the dying and their caregivers. Inspired by traditional Buddhist teachings, her work is a source of wisdom for all those who are charged with a dying person's care, facing their own death, or wishing to explore and contemplate the transformative power of the dying process. Her teachings affirm that we can open and contact our inner strength, and that we can help others who are suffering to do the same.
Being with Dying Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death (Audible Audio Edition) Joan Halifax Ira Byock MD foreword Claire Slemmer Audible Studios Books
When a friend was rapidly deteriorating from ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) I tried to help with activity - visiting and bringing smoothies every morning. Eventually, her needs were taken care of by her professional staff and I didn't know what to "DO". This book helped me understand how to "BE" with my friend's suffering. I would have been lost in my sadness without these teachings. This is one of those books you hold on to because you know you will need it again. I'm so glad I found it when I did.Product details
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Being with Dying Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death (Audible Audio Edition) Joan Halifax Ira Byock MD foreword Claire Slemmer Audible Studios Books Reviews
Written by a woman who has spent decades in Hospice Care.
Lots of case study examples.
Lots of helpful advice.
Very wise, caring, compassionate observations.
Extremely aware of how unique we all are.
And how unique our approach to dying may be.
Continues to reinforce the attitude of LISTENING and HONORING to the Needs and Wants of the Dying Person..
( i.e., refrain from "helping" and giving "advise etc.)
Our Book Club read it and spent many meeting discussing it's wisdom.
Not Preachy !!!
I agree with other reviewers who have praised this book so highly. There is tremendous wisdom in it and though Halifax comes out of a Buddhist perspective, I have found that there is a great deal in Buddhism that can, and often is integrated with other faiths. I have known Christian Buddhists (or Buddhist Christians)and Jewish Buddhists. I don't know if it can be integrated into Islam but I would be surprised if it can't.
Buddhist beliefs about death as simply a transition in the greater picture of life also lend themselves to application of true love and compassion in a setting where someone is dying, so it's not surprising that so many Buddhists have gotten involved in the hospice movement. Seeing death as not an end, or a loss or tragedy or catastrophe, but as something positive is an attitude that can be very beneficial to the dying and their loved ones.
This is not a book with practical advice for caregivers but if they have the chance so saturate themselves with Halifax's wisdom, they will know what to do in a practical sense. After I finished reading, with a lot of highlighting, I read it again.
I am working on an annotated bibliography for the hospice where I volunteer and so far I have read fifteen or sixteen books on care for the dying. Two others with a Buddhist perspective which I would highly recommend are Merrill Collett's AT HOME WITH DYING and Christine Longaker's FACING DEATH AND FINDING HOPE. Longaker's, in particular, is almost the equal of this book. Incidentally, I am a practicing, singing Christian but I've always had tremendous curiosity.
If you want to learn more explicitly about Buddhist beliefs about death, I recommend Sogyal Rinpoche's THE TIBETAN BOOK OF LIVING AND DYING. Sogyal has worked a lot in the West and his book was written for a Western audience. Christine Longaker worked with Sogyal and talks a lot about him.
When I am writing a review for this bibliography, one perspective I like to consider is whether I would want the author caring for me if and when I am dying in a hospice or home hospice setting. Joan Halifax is at the top of my list, equaled only by Marie de Hennezel, though there are many others who were close to the top.
Feeling inadequate to deal with death, whether my own or the growing number of elderly loved ones, I read her pages with hope of finding "the" answer. This author guides the reader through impermanence until it becomes comfortable. Experience is our teacher, she explains, and gives lesson after lesson to become okay with this part of life. Everyone should read this book!
BEING WITH DYING is specifically aimed at professional caregivers, but non-professional caregivers, such as family members and friends who provide caregiving for a dying person, will find excellent support to guide them along their spiritual path.
With unflinching honesty and deep compassion for the dying person, Halifax explores all the aspects of dying and death that, in being with a dying person, a caregiver may experience. She deals with the spiritual, physical, mental and emotional processes that dying activates and how this affects both the dying person and those around him.
There was some bias against family members and friends acting as caregivers to the dying. All her empathy lies with the dying person, which is as it should be, but Halifax is, at times, quite unsympathetic to the emotional pain, suffering and struggle from the family caregivers' side. Her negative view of caretaker archetypes reveals a subtle disdain for the role of family caregivers.
Unfortunately, this slightly detracts from the inherent wisdom of her advice and Buddhist philosophy. Not all of us have the temperament or self-mastery to become a detached caregiver. All non-professional caregivers do is try to give their loved ones the best that they can out of love. Yes, with hindsight, the mistakes they make may have made dying more difficult for the departing soul, but the resulting guilt also makes the loss harder to bear even when the non-professional caregiver knows the loved one's soul is finally at peace. Halifax's compassion was all for the dying and there was very little left over for the family members living for years in that strange limbo between deep love, anticipatory grief, impending loss and physical exhaustion.
Despite this, the wise reflections, the meditations and the practical advice presented in BEING WITH DYING helped me through the very trying time of my beloved Father's active dying. Coincidentally, I started reading this book the night he had his third and final stroke, and I finished it 11 days later, the day after his funeral.
I regret that I only found this book three years after my role as caregiver to my Father began, because I can see the mistakes I made, despite having help from a professional caregiver for the last 18 months. But I do gain some small comfort from the fact that, in the 6 days it took my beloved Father to actively die, I feel this book truly helped me ease his path slightly (by just sitting quietly with him and following his lead.) I also found the breathing meditations helped me calm my mind and relax my body during this intensely emotional time.
Ultimately, BEING WITH DYING was a worthwhile and comforting read for me. I highly recommend BEING WITH DYING, no matter what stage of the caregiver's role you are currently in.
When a friend was rapidly deteriorating from ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease) I tried to help with activity - visiting and bringing smoothies every morning. Eventually, her needs were taken care of by her professional staff and I didn't know what to "DO". This book helped me understand how to "BE" with my friend's suffering. I would have been lost in my sadness without these teachings. This is one of those books you hold on to because you know you will need it again. I'm so glad I found it when I did.
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